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Mental Health Myths

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How to Know When You Need Therapy or Counseling?

Mental health is just as important as physical health, but it is often stigmatized and misunderstood. There are many myths about mental health that can prevent people from seeking help when they need it. Here are some of the most common mental health myths:

Myth #1: Only weak people have mental health problems.

This is simply not true. Mental health problems can affect anyone, regardless of their strength or weakness. In fact, some of the strongest and most successful people in the world have spoken openly about their struggles with mental health.

Myth #2: Mental health problems are not real.

Mental health problems are very real and can have a significant impact on a person’s life. They are caused by a combination of biological, environmental, and psychological factors. Just like physical health problems, mental health problems can be treated with medication, therapy, or a combination of both.

Myth #3: You can just “snap out of it” if you try hard enough.

Mental health problems are not something that you can just “snap out of.” They require professional help and treatment. Trying to “tough it out” or “wishing it away” will not make the problem go away.

Myth #4: People with mental health problems are dangerous.

This is a dangerous myth that can lead to people with mental health problems being discriminated against and avoided. In reality, people with mental health problems are no more likely to be violent than anyone else. In fact, they are more likely to be the victims of violence.

Myth #5: Children don’t have mental health problems.

Children can and do experience mental health problems. In fact, one in five children will have a mental health problem by the time they reach adulthood. It is important to get help for children with mental health problems early on, as untreated problems can have a lasting impact on their development.

Myth #6: Mental health problems are a sign of weakness.

Having a mental health problem does not mean that you are weak. It means that you are struggling with something that is out of your control. There is no shame in seeking help for a mental health problem. In fact, it is a sign of strength to ask for help when you need it.

Myth #7: You can’t have both mental and physical health problems.

This is simply not true. In fact, many people with mental health problems also have physical health problems. The two are often interconnected. For example, stress can contribute to both physical and mental health problems.

Myth #8: Mental health problems are only treatable with medication.

While medication can be an effective treatment for some mental health problems, it is not the only treatment option. Therapy, lifestyle changes, and other complementary therapies can also be helpful.

Myth #9: Once you have a mental health problem, you will always have it.

This is not always the case. Many people with mental health problems recover and go on to live healthy and productive lives. With the right treatment, it is possible to manage your mental health and live a full and meaningful life.

Myth #10: Mental health problems are not a disability.

This is also not true. Mental health problems can qualify as a disability under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). This means that people with mental health problems are protected from discrimination in employment, education, and other areas.

These are just a few of the many myths about mental health. It is important to remember that mental health is just as important as physical health. If you are struggling with a mental health problem, please know that you are not alone and that there is help available. Talk to your doctor, a therapist, or a mental health professional. There is no shame in seeking help, and it could make a big difference in your life.

Here are some additional resources for mental health information and support:

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Maintaining a long-lasting relationship is not always easy, but it is definitely possible with effort and commitment. Here are some tips to help you keep your relationship strong and healthy for years to come:

1. Communicate openly and honestly.

Communication is key to any successful relationship. Make sure you are always open and honest with your partner, even when it is difficult. This means sharing your thoughts, feelings, and needs, as well as listening to your partner’s thoughts, feelings, and needs. It is also important to be respectful of your partner’s opinions, even if you disagree with them.

2. Show your love and appreciation.

It is important to let your partner know how much you love and appreciate them on a regular basis. This can be done through words, actions, or gifts. Some examples of ways to show your love and appreciation include:

  • Saying “I love you”
  • Giving your partner a hug or kiss
  • Doing something nice for your partner, such as cooking dinner, running errands, or giving them a massage
  • Buying your partner a gift, such as flowers, jewelry, or a new book

3. Spend time together.

It is important to make time for your partner, even when you are busy. This means setting aside time for date nights, weekend getaways, or just spending time together at home. It is also important to be present when you are with your partner and to avoid distractions such as your phone or computer.

4. Be supportive.

Being supportive of your partner means being there for them when they need you. This means listening to them when they are going through a tough time, offering advice or help when they need it, and celebrating their successes.

5. Be willing to compromise.

No two people are exactly alike, so it is important to be willing to compromise in a relationship. This means being willing to give up something that you want in order to make your partner happy, and vice versa. It is also important to be willing to work through disagreements and find solutions that work for both of you.

6. Forgive each other.

Everyone makes mistakes, so it is important to be willing to forgive your partner when they do something to hurt you. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting what happened, but it does mean letting go of anger and resentment.

7. Continue to grow and learn.

As people, we are constantly growing and learning. This means that our relationships are also constantly evolving. It is important to be willing to grow and learn together as a couple. This can be done by talking about your hopes and dreams, taking classes together, or traveling to new places.

8. Seek help if needed.

If you are struggling in your relationship, do not be afraid to seek help. There are many resources available to help couples improve their relationships, such as counseling, therapy, or support groups.

Maintaining a long-lasting relationship takes effort and commitment. However, it is definitely possible with the right tools and strategies. By following the tips above, you can increase your chances of having a happy and fulfilling relationship for years to come.

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New thinking

Procrastination is the act of delaying or postponing a task or set of tasks. It is a common human behavior that can have a negative impact on our productivity, our personal and professional relationships, and our overall well-being.

There are many reasons why we procrastinate. Sometimes, we procrastinate because we are afraid of failure. We may worry that we won’t be able to do the task well, or that we will make a mistake. Other times, we procrastinate because we are not motivated. We may not see the value in the task, or we may be overwhelmed by it. And sometimes, we procrastinate simply because it is easier than doing the task.

Whatever the reason, procrastination can be a major obstacle to our success. It can prevent us from achieving our goals, meeting deadlines, and fulfilling our potential.

If you are struggling with procrastination, there are a number of things you can do to overcome it. Here are a few tips:

  1. Set concrete goals. When you have a clear goal in mind, it is much easier to stay motivated and avoid procrastination. So take some time to think about what you want to achieve, and then break it down into smaller, more manageable steps.
  2. Break down tasks into smaller chunks. Large tasks can seem daunting and overwhelming, which can lead to procrastination. To avoid this, break down tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks that you can complete in a shorter amount of time.
  3. Start with a tiny step. Even if you’re not feeling motivated, you can still make progress by starting with a tiny step. Just commit to doing something, no matter how small, and then build on that momentum.
  4. Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, so don’t let the fear of failure hold you back. Just focus on taking action and learning from your mistakes along the way.
  5. Focus on just doing, rather than doing well. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, it can be helpful to focus on just doing the task, rather than trying to do it perfectly. Just get started and worry about the quality later.
  6. Switch things up. If you’re getting bored or stuck, try switching things up. Change your environment, take a break, or try a different approach. Sometimes, a fresh perspective is all you need to get motivated.
  7. Figure out what you’re afraid of, and address your fears. Sometimes, procrastination is rooted in fear. We may be afraid of failure, of success, or of something else entirely. Once you identify your fear, you can start to address it and overcome it.

Procrastination can be a tough habit to break, but it is possible. By following these tips, you can learn to overcome procrastination and achieve your goals.

Here are some additional tips that may help you stop procrastinating:

  • Set aside specific times for work and play. This will help you avoid distractions and stay focused on your work.
  • Reward yourself for completing tasks. This will help you stay motivated and make procrastination less appealing.
  • Find a partner or accountability group. This can help you stay on track and avoid giving in to procrastination.
  • Delegate tasks. If you have too much on your plate, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
  • Take breaks. Don’t try to work for hours on end without taking a break. Get up and move around, or take a few minutes to relax and clear your head.
  • Get organized. Having a system for keeping track of your tasks and deadlines can help you avoid procrastination.
  • Avoid distractions. Turn off your phone, close your email, and find a quiet place to work.
  • Believe in yourself. You can do it! Just take it one step at a time.

Procrastination can be a challenge, but it is not impossible to overcome. By following these tips, you can learn to stop procrastinating and achieve your goals.

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The first day of school is a joyous occasion for many children, but it can be a bittersweet time for parents. After all, it means saying goodbye to their little ones for several hours each day. For some parents, the separation can be difficult to cope with. They may feel sad, lonely, or even anxious.

If you’re a parent who is struggling with separation anxiety, there are a few things you can do to cope. First, it’s important to remember that these feelings are normal. Everyone feels a little bit sad when their child goes back to school. The important thing is to not let these feelings overwhelm you.

Here are a few tips for coping with separation anxiety:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings. It’s okay to feel sad or anxious about your child’s return to school. These are normal emotions. Don’t try to bottle them up or pretend that you’re not feeling anything.
  2. Talk to your child about your feelings. Let your child know that you’re going to miss them, but that you’re also excited for them to start school. Talk about what they’re looking forward to about the new school year.
  3. Make a special goodbye routine. This could involve giving them a hug, reading them a story, or making them breakfast.
  4. Make a plan for staying connected. Set up a regular time each day or week to talk to your child on the phone or video chat. You can also send them texts, emails or letters.
  5. Reach out to other parents who are also feeling separation anxiety. Talking to someone who understands what you’re going through can be helpful.
  6. Get involved in your child’s school. Volunteering at your child’s school is a great way to stay connected and support their education. You can also attend parent-teacher conferences and school events.
  7. Take some time for yourself each day. This could involve reading, going for a walk or spending time with friends.

If you’re still struggling to cope with separation anxiety, it’s important to seek professional help. A therapist can help you understand your feelings and develop coping mechanisms.

Remember, you’re not alone in this. Many parents go through the same thing when their child starts school. With a little time and effort, you’ll be able to cope with separation anxiety and enjoy this new chapter in your child’s life.

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Twenty-two years ago today, the world changed forever. On September 11, 2001, terrorists hijacked four airplanes and carried out a series of coordinated attacks that killed nearly 3,000 people and injured thousands more.

The attacks were a horrific act of violence, but they also brought out the best in humanity. In the days and weeks that followed, people from all over the world came together to show their support for the victims and their families.

We saw acts of courage and compassion from firefighters, police officers, and ordinary citizens. We saw people donate blood, volunteer their time, and open their hearts to those in need.

The courage, strength, and resilience of the human spirit was on full display in the aftermath of 9/11. It is a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is always hope.

Here are some specific examples of the courage, strength, and resilience of the people in the aftermath of 9/11:

  • Firefighters and police officers risked their lives to save others.
  • Ordinary citizens volunteered their time and money to help the victims and their families.
  • People from all over the world donated blood and other supplies.
  • Businesses and organizations offered free or discounted services to help those in need.
  • Children wrote letters of support to the victims and their families.
  • Survivors of the attacks found the strength to rebuild their lives.

The attacks of 9/11 were a terrible tragedy, but they also showed us the best of humanity. We saw people come together to help each other in a time of need. We saw the power of the human spirit to overcome adversity.

How Can We Celebrate the Courage, Strength, and Resilience of the People?

  1. Honor the past. Learn about the history of your community or country and the challenges that people have faced. This can help you to appreciate the courage and strength of those who came before you.
  2. Recognize the present. Be aware of the challenges that people are facing today, both locally and globally. This could include things like poverty, war, or natural disasters. Find ways to support those who are struggling.
  3. Celebrate the good. There are many stories of courage, strength, and resilience happening all around us. Take the time to read about or watch these stories to be inspired.
  4. Get involved. There are many ways to get involved in your community and make a difference. You could volunteer your time, donate to a cause, or start your own project.
  5. Be kind. One of the simplest ways to celebrate the courage, strength, and resilience of others is to be kind to them. This could mean something as small as holding the door open for someone or as big as donating blood or volunteering at a soup kitchen.

We can also celebrate the courage, strength, and resilience of the people by living our lives to the fullest. Let us never take our freedom for granted and let us always be willing to help others in need.

Conclusion

September 11, 2001 was a dark day in our history, but it also showed us the best of humanity. The courage, strength, and resilience of the people in the aftermath of the attacks is an inspiration to us all.

Let us never forget the victims and their families, and let us always strive to live our lives to the fullest. We can honor the memory of those who lost their lives on 9/11 by being courageous, strong, and resilient in the face of adversity.

Here are some resources for those who are struggling with grief or trauma:

  • National Center for PTSD: This website provides information and resources on post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), including coping strategies, treatment options, and support groups. https://www.ptsd.va.gov/.
  • American Psychological Association: This website provides information on grief and loss, trauma, and coping strategies, as well as a directory of psychologists who specialize in these areas.  https://www.apa.org/topics/grief/.
  • The Dougy Center: The Dougy Center is a national organization that provides grief support to children, teens, and their families. You can find their website here: https://www.dougy.org/.
  • The Compassionate Friends: This organization provides support to bereaved parents and families. https://www.compassionatefriends.org/.
  • The National Child Traumatic Stress Network: This website provides information and resources on childhood traumatic stress, including treatment options and support groups. https://www.nctsn.org/.
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10 Tips for Smoother Mornings

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10 Tips for Smoother Mornings

Not all of us are morning and getting yourself and your kids ready and out the door can be down right stressful. Here are a few helpful tips to make mornings go smoothly.

1. Pack lunches the night before

Instead of rushing around in the morning to pack lunches for yourself and your kids do it the night before.  You can even include your kids in this and have them help pack their own lunch.

2. Gets backpacks and outfits laid out

Having everything packed the night before eliminates the morning stress have rushing around to find library books that are due or show and tell items that are needed for that day.

3. Create a visual schedule for the morning routine

Visual reminders will help kids remember what is included in their morning routine. It will also help to keep them on task.

4. No screen time until everyone is completely ready

Not having screen time until everyone is ready can help with motivating everyone to stick to the routine so that

5. Give everyone a responsibility

Give everyone a job to help get ready in the morning. Whether it is putting out the dishes for breakfast, helping put away today, or helping a younger sibling get ready. Everyone will play a part in getting ready.

6. Be consistent

Being consistent will help your morning routine become habit for your family.

7. Make sure everyone gets enough sleep

Both you and your kids need sleep. Mornings will go better when everyone wakes up feeling well rested.

8. Don’t leave breakfast until last

Everyone has a hard time concentrating and getting things done when they are hungry. Have breakfast earlier in the morning to avoid cranky kids and cranky adults.

9. Remember to check the calendar

Set notifications if there is something special going on that day. No one wants to forget a fun dress up day for the kids or forget to get a treat ready for the class.

10. Stay calm

The more you can organize the easier it will be to get things ready in the morning without getting frustrated or flustered.

How your morning goes can really set the tone for your entire day. Use these tips to help form a morning routine and have less stressful mornings.

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How to help your child get back into a school routine

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The back-to-school season can be a challenging time for both kids and parents. After a long summer of freedom, it can be tough to get back into the swing of things. But with a little planning and preparation, you can help your child get back into a school routine with ease.

Here are some tips:

  1. Start establishing a routine a few weeks before school starts. This will give your child time to adjust to the new schedule and make it less of a shock when the first day of school arrives. Start by gradually shifting bedtimes and wake-up times earlier. You can also start incorporating some school-like activities into your child’s day, such as reading, writing, and doing math problems.
  2. Create a visual schedule. A visual schedule can be a helpful tool for children who are visual learners. It can help them see what activities they need to do each day and in what order. You can create a simple schedule on a piece of paper or use a more elaborate planner.
  3. Be consistent. Once you’ve established a routine, it’s important to be consistent with it. This means sticking to the same bedtimes, wake-up times, and activities each day. If you’re inconsistent, your child will be more likely to get confused and frustrated.
  4. Be patient. It may take some time for your child to adjust to a new routine. Be patient with them and don’t get discouraged if they have setbacks. Just keep providing them with support and encouragement, and they’ll eventually get the hang of it.
  5. Make it fun. Try to make the school routine as fun and enjoyable as possible for your child. This could mean incorporating some of their favorite activities into the schedule, such as listening to music, playing games, or reading books.
  6. Celebrate successes. When your child does a good job of following the routine, be sure to celebrate their successes. This will help them stay motivated and on track.

Here are some additional tips for helping your child get back into a school routine:

  • Talk to your child about their fears and concerns. Many children are apprehensive about the start of a new school year. They may be worried about making new friends, doing well in their classes, or being bullied. Talk to your child about their fears and concerns and help them develop strategies for coping with them.
  • Help your child get organized. Make sure your child has a place for everything they need for school, such as their backpack, books, and school supplies. You can also help them create a homework space that is quiet and free from distractions.
  • Encourage your child to get involved in extracurricular activities. Extracurricular activities can help your child make new friends, learn new skills, and stay active. They can also provide a welcome break from the stress of school.
  • Make sure your child is getting enough sleep. Getting enough sleep is essential for children’s physical and mental health. It also helps them stay alert and focused in school.
  • Eat healthy meals and snacks. Eating healthy foods gives children the energy they need to learn and grow. It also helps them stay focused and alert in school.
  • Limit screen time. Too much screen time can interfere with sleep, school performance, and overall health. Limit your child’s screen time to two hours or less per day.

Following these tips can help your child get back into a school routine with ease. With a little planning and preparation, you can help them have a successful and enjoyable school year.

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What your emotions are trying to tell you?

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are neurodevelopmental disorders that can cause difficulty with attention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. These disorders can impact many areas of life, including school, work, relationships, and overall well-being.

While there is no cure for ADHD or ADD, there are many effective treatments available. Treatment typically involves a combination of medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. With the right treatment, people with ADHD or ADD can live full and productive lives.

Here are some tips for navigating through life with ADHD or ADD:

  1. Get diagnosed and treated. The first step to managing ADHD or ADD is to get diagnosed by a qualified healthcare professional. Once you have a diagnosis, you can work with your doctor to develop a treatment plan that is right for you.
  2. Take medication, if needed. Medication can be an effective way to manage the symptoms of ADHD or ADD. If you are taking medication, it is important to take it as prescribed by your doctor.
  3. Get therapy. Therapy can help you learn how to manage your ADHD or ADD symptoms and develop coping skills. There are many different types of therapy that can be helpful for people with ADHD or ADD, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR).
  4. Make lifestyle changes. There are a number of lifestyle changes that can help you manage your ADHD or ADD symptoms. These changes may include getting regular exercise, eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, and avoiding caffeine and alcohol.
  5. Find a support system. Having a support system of friends, family, and other people with ADHD or ADD can be invaluable. Talking to others who understand what you are going through can help you feel less alone and more empowered to manage your condition.

Navigating through life with ADHD or ADD can be challenging, but it is possible to live a full and productive life. By getting diagnosed and treated, getting therapy, making lifestyle changes, and finding a support system, you can manage your symptoms and live a happy and fulfilling life.

Here are some additional tips that may be helpful for people with ADHD or ADD:

  • Set realistic goals. When you have ADHD or ADD, it can be easy to get overwhelmed by tasks. Break down large tasks into smaller, more manageable steps.
  • Reward yourself for your accomplishments. When you reach a goal, take some time to celebrate your success. This will help you stay motivated and on track.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you are struggling, don’t be afraid to ask for help from a friend, family member, therapist, or other professional.
  • Learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. When you make a mistake, don’t dwell on it. Learn from your mistake and move on.

Living with ADHD or ADD can be challenging, but it is also an opportunity to learn and grow. By following these tips, you can manage your symptoms and live a happy and fulfilling life.

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How to Help Family Members with Mental Health Issues

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Mental health issues are a common occurrence in the United States, affecting one in five adults each year. While mental health issues can affect anyone, they are more common in certain populations, such as young adults, women, and people of color.

If you have a family member who is struggling with a mental health issue, it is important to know that you are not alone. Listed below there are many resources available to help you and your family member get the support they need.

Here are some ideas on how to help your family member with a mental health issue:

  • First, Educate yourself about mental health issues. The more you know about mental health, the better equipped you will be to help your family member. There are many resources available to help you learn more about mental health, including books, websites, and support groups.
  • Secondly, Talk to your family member about their mental health. Let them know that you are there for them and that you want to help. Furthermore Encourage them to talk to you about how they are feeling and what they are going through.
  • Thirdly, Support your family member in seeking professional help. If your family member is struggling with a mental health issue, it is important to encourage them to seek professional help. A mental health professional can provide your family member with the support and treatment they need to get better.
  • Lastly, Be patient and understanding. It is important to be patient and understanding with your family member as they work through their mental health issue. Recovery takes time, so be there for them every step of the way.

Resources for Mental Health in Wisconsin and Minnesota

There are many resources available to help people with mental health issues in Wisconsin and Minnesota. Here are a few of the resources available in these states:

  • Wisconsin Department of Health Services: The Wisconsin Department of Health Services provides a variety of resources for people with mental health issues, including information on mental health disorders, treatment options, and support groups.
  • Minnesota Department of Human Services: The Minnesota Department of Human Services provides similar resources to the Wisconsin Department of Health Services.
  • National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): NAMI is a national organization that provides support and advocacy for people with mental illness and their families. NAMI has chapters in both Wisconsin and Minnesota.
  • MentalHealth.gov: MentalHealth.gov is a website from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services that provides information on mental health disorders, treatment options, and support groups.

If you are struggling with a mental health issue or know someone who is, please know that you are not alone. There are many resources available to help you get the support you need.

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Pride Month;A Celebration of LGBTQ+ Identity and History

Pride Month: A Celebration of LGBTQ+ Identity and History

June is Pride Month, a time to celebrate the LGBTQ+ community and its history. The month is marked by parades, festivals, and other events that bring people together to celebrate their identity and advocate for equality.

What is Pride Month?

Pride Month is an annual observance that commemorates the 1969 Stonewall riots in New York City. The riots were a turning point in the gay liberation movement, and they helped to spark the fight for LGBTQ+ rights in the United States and around the world.

The first Pride march was held in New York City in 1970, and it was a small event with about 1,000 people in attendance. However, the march quickly grew in popularity, and today Pride events are held all over the world.

How to Celebrate Pride Month

There are many ways to celebrate Pride Month. Some people participate in parades, marches, and other public demonstrations. Others attend festivals, concerts, and other cultural events. Still others simply wear rainbow flags or other symbols of pride.

Here are some additional ideas for celebrating Pride Month:

  • Attend a Pride parade or march.
  • Go to a Pride festival or concert.
  • Visit a local LGBTQ+ community center.
  • Volunteer for an LGBTQ+ organization.
  • Support LGBTQ+ businesses.
  • Be an ally to LGBTQ+ people in your community.
  • Talk to your friends and family about LGBTQ+ issues.

Support Resources

There are many resources available to help you learn more about LGBTQ+ issues and celebrate Pride Month. Here are a few:

Why is Pride Month Important?

Pride Month is important because it is a time to celebrate the LGBTQ+ community and its achievements. It is also a time to raise awareness of LGBTQ+ issues and advocate for equality.

Pride Month is a reminder that the LGBTQ+ community has come a long way, but there is still work to be done. We must continue to fight for equality for all LGBTQ+ people, regardless of their race, ethnicity, gender identity, or socioeconomic status.

Conclusion

Pride Month is a celebration of LGBTQ+ Identity and history, but it is also a time to reflect on the challenges that the LGBTQ+ community still faces. In conclusion we must continue to fight for equality for all LGBTQ+ people, furthermore we must never forget the sacrifices that have been made to get us where we are today.

Happy Pride Month From Collaborative Counseling!

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