Losing a loved one to suicide can be a very painful experience for those of us left behind. Here are some potential perspectives or reframes to your sadness. These were written by someone who lost their son to suicide and used these various thoughts or perspectives to help cope with their sadness. We hope you too can find some help in these thoughts.

Things To Keep In Mind

• You will not always feel the pain this deeply. Time does heal. A walk in nature ~ or having a dog or a cat will bring amazing comfort to you.
• It is important to know that your loved one’s anguished mental condition prevented them from thinking clearly.
• It is important to be grateful that in their anguish, your loved one did not cause the death of any other people, as is sometimes the case.
• A heathy person’s primary desire is to protect their life in any way they can. Therefore, when a person chooses to end their life, it is their decision, and no one else is responsible.
• God is a god of love and compassion, and knows the heart of each of us. It is not possible for God to stop loving anyone, especially one in such deep distress. Therefore, your loved one rests in the heart of God. He will listen when you ask for Him to hold your loved one in compassion, and heal their broken heart and mind. He will also heal your broken heart, and the hearts of all of those who ask for this gift.
• Life is eternal and we will one day be reunited with all of our loved ones, especially this precious one.
• The greatest gift you can give this loved one is to hold them in your heart with complete love and gratitude, knowing that they are being healed, and rest in the heart of God. Only fear and anxiety can hold them back from this immersion in love. So be at peace, and offer thanks for your time with them.
• Two of the greatest enemies of our peace of mind are hunger and fatigue. Therefore, it is your duty, to yourself, to eat well and regularly – and to rest often and enter sleep with a peaceful heart.

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If you are looking for support in this difficult time, visit our website  to learn how we can help https://www.collaborativemn.com/counseling-services/individual-counseling